So, it’s a brand new year with the same resolution for many: lose weight, hit the gym, fit into an old pair of skinny jeans. This is the month that gyms will be the most crowded, Instagram feeds will be flooded with work-out selfies (#GymRatLol). But really… why is losing weight the most universal goal? When we audit our lives at the end of each year, why is our weight the number one priority to “get right” in the year to come?
According to the dictionary, weight is “the amount or quantity of heaviness or mass; the force that gravitation exerts upon a body, equal to the mass of the body times the local acceleration of gravity” (Source). Hmm… you never hear someone say “My New Year’s resolution is to decrease the force that gravity exerts upon my body!” Boy, that would just be silly, wouldn’t it?
Yet, it’s completely normal that people want to lose weight to fit into society’s perception of what is an “ideal” or attractive weight. Does that seem twisted to anybody else? Don’t get me wrong… losing weight was on the top of my yearly goals for many many years- starting in elementary school. Does that seem twisted to anybody else?
Well, it seems twisted to me. That’s why I’m joining the Smash the Scale Revolution. The campaign, launched by Jes Baker of The Militant Baker and the Body Love Conference, isn’t about literally smashing your scale to smithereens (although… I hear it’s very liberating…). It’s about accepting who you are, and not setting a goal to change your body at the start of each year. It’s about actively trying to love yourself more, and detaching your self worth from the number that shows up on that little LED screen. It’s about fulfilling your own definition of beauty.
Why am I smashing the scale? I’m smashing the scale because…
- I grew up being bullied into believing I was an outsider because of my weight.
- I am learning that my curves are no indication of my actual physical health, and there is no universal “healthy weight”.
- I live for myself, for those whom I love and those who love me as I am.
- I still have fear of gaining back the weight I lost this summer, because if I gain it back, I have failed.
- I’ve struggled with the roller coaster of accepting my body, then hating it, then accepting it again for years.
- Throughout middle and high school, I would photoshop my MySpace and Facebook photos to appear slimmer.
- I am slowly realizing that weight has absolutely nothing to do with beauty. At all.
It won’t happen overnight. It might not even happen this month. However, my top resolution this year is to love myself and my body more, ’cause I only have one! Because when I’m on my death bed, I can confidently predict I won’t give a rat’s ass about how my ass looked in jeans when I was 20 years old. To be clear, I still have a resolution to resume being more active and eating cleaner than I have been these past few months. But my end goal is not to lose weight. I’m no skinny thing, and I’m starting to realize that’s just not how I was made to be… and that’s OK.
I encourage you to join the #SmashTheScale revolution! Forget about “getting skinny,” and focus on the beauty that you already encompass.
So tell me, why are you smashing the scale?