Why I’m Smashing the Scale, and You Should Too! #SmashTheScale

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    So, it’s a brand new year with the same resolution for many: lose weight, hit the gym, fit into an old pair of skinny jeans. This is the month that gyms will be the most crowded, Instagram feeds will be flooded with work-out selfies (#GymRatLol). But really… why is losing weight the most universal goal? When we audit our lives at the end of each year, why is our weight the number one priority to “get right” in the year to come?

    According to the dictionary, weight is “the amount or quantity of heaviness or mass; the force that gravitation exerts upon a body, equal to the mass of the body times the local acceleration of gravity” (Source). Hmm… you never hear someone say “My New Year’s resolution is to decrease the force that gravity exerts upon my body!” Boy, that would just be silly, wouldn’t it?

    Yet, it’s completely normal that people want to lose weight to fit into society’s perception of what is an “ideal” or attractive weight. Does that seem twisted to anybody else? Don’t get me wrong… losing weight was on the top of my yearly goals for many many years- starting in elementary school. Does that seem twisted to anybody else?

    Photo: The Militant Baker
    Photo: The Militant Baker

    Well, it seems twisted to me. That’s why I’m joining the Smash the Scale Revolution. The campaign, launched by Jes Baker of The Militant Baker and the Body Love Conference, isn’t about literally smashing your scale to smithereens (although… I hear it’s very liberating…). It’s about accepting who you are, and not setting a goal to change your body at the start of each year. It’s about actively trying to love yourself more, and detaching your self worth from the number that shows up on that little LED screen. It’s about fulfilling your own definition of beauty.

    Why am I smashing the scale? I’m smashing the scale because…

    • I grew up being bullied into believing I was an outsider because of my weight.
    • I am learning that my curves are no indication of my actual physical health, and there is no universal “healthy weight”.
    • I live for myself, for those whom I love and those who love me as I am.
    • I still have fear of gaining back the weight I lost this summer, because if I gain it back, I have failed.
    • I’ve struggled with the roller coaster of accepting my body, then hating it, then accepting it again for years.
    • Throughout middle and high school, I would photoshop my MySpace and Facebook photos to appear slimmer.
    • I am slowly realizing that weight has absolutely nothing to do with beauty. At all.

    It won’t happen overnight. It might not even happen this month. However, my top resolution this year is to love myself and my body more, ’cause I only have one! Because when I’m on my death bed, I can confidently predict I won’t give a rat’s ass about how my ass looked in jeans when I was 20 years old. To be clear, I still have a resolution to resume being more active and eating cleaner than I have been these past few months. But my end goal is not to lose weight. I’m no skinny thing, and I’m starting to realize that’s just not how I was made to be… and that’s OK.

    I encourage you to join the #SmashTheScale revolution! Forget about “getting skinny,” and focus on the beauty that you already encompass.

    So tell me, why are you smashing the scale?

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    24 COMMENTS

    1. You are awesome! I think this is a fab idea. Truth be told I do need to lose some weight but for my health. I don’t want to get stuck in that crazy lose weight and be obsessed cycle again – there are healthier ways!

    2. Great post! I hear comments about being too skinny all the time even from people who know it’s because of my health issues. You won’t believe it but I hate getting on the scale too so I am with you on that! 🙂

    3. I’m all about loving yourself regardless of your shape and size. I was overweight myself some moons ago but working in the healthcare field made me realize about the importance of maintaining a healthy weight. So with proper diet (eating everything in moderation) and exercise, I am glad to be back on track again. The main point to consider is not to lose weight for vanity reasons but to be in better control of your health. Morbid obesity is linked to cardiovascular problems, diabetes, kidney disease, etc all of w/c are lifestyle-related. I deal w/ patients on a daily basis and the long term effects of these diseases are damaging. Yes we must love our body no matter what size we are but we must also take care of ourselves so we live long enough for our loved ones and for us to enjoy life to the fullest.

    4. Good for you to realize this and write about it. I know most girls your age want to be super skinny thinking that will make them happy.

    5. I wasn’t fat and I wasn’t skinny. I wasn’t attractive but the worse was that I matured before everyone else. Thus, I was deemed fat. I believed it too. Now when I look back at my kid-time photos, I’m blown away that I was lean and actually ‘NORMAL’!!!!

    6. I love this! I have struggled with my weight and over the past year I’ve just sort of accepted my size. I’ll admit there are still days where I think about being smaller but I just don’t really worry about it much anymore. I am ok with that :).

    7. I appreciate the sentiment behind this post. Speaking as someone who could stand to be in better shape and just generally eat better, I find the emphasis on weight loss alone to be discouraging.

      I joined MyFitnessPal a while back as a way to keep a food and fitness diary, and I ended up poking around the communities a bit, but soon my feed was flooded with people who weighed themselves every day freaking out over having gained half a pound or something. I know not everyone is like that, but if you’re trying to focus more on just having a healthy lifestyle than a target number that type of noise can be a bit stressful I guess? Anyway, at this point in my life I’m more concerned about living healthfully and not getting a nutritional deficiency than fitting into a certain size, so I hear you!

      • I’m totally with you, Rebecca! I actually used MyFitnessPal as well when I was losing weight this past summer. I think that it’s great to use for tracking stuff like sugar intake, protein intake, vitamin intake, etc for health benefits/restrictions. But you’re SO right on how the emphasis on the actual weight loss turns it around into something it shouldn’t be!

    8. Having a model sister always put a lot of pressure on my self-esteem, when I’m just a shortie with average weight within “normal” BMI; so I was constantly dieting and exercising. Now I weigh in maybe once or twice a month just out of curiosity, because I’m finally comfortable in my own body 🙂 I like eating good food for health benefits, if that also makes me stay in shape, that’s just a secondary perk 🙂

    9. I grew up as an outcast in school as well – for the opposite reason. I now weigh 47kg or 105lb for 1.63cm but it was far worse during childhood. They called me “bag of bones” and I lacked the cuteness factor that chubby cheeks brought in. It wasn’t anyone’s fault, as my doctor once put it, “it didn’t pay to feed me”! Society is weird and cruel sometimes with all these perceptions.

    10. I don’t own a scale, and don’t have any desire to! I am more concerned with eating well and feeling healthy than a number. Great post, and love the idea! <3

    11. I like the concept, but for me, weight loss evolved from being about the scale or the number. At first, because seeing that number go below 200 was a total win in my world. But it became more about the change of how I felt bending over to tie my shoes or do my toenails. Lowering my high cholesterol and getting rid of my sleep apnea. I thought I accepted who I was when I was obese (I put my face all over my blog for crying out loud lol) but now I realize I did not and that makes me sad. I should have loved myself. Now, although I am always saying I’m going to try to lose more weight, to get rid of the pudge on my stomach, tone up my arms…at the same time, I am not on any medications or using a C-Pap anymore, and that’s my win, not the number of pounds I lost! The win in how I carry myself with confidence! The half marathon I’m planning to run! I agree we should love ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are, but there shouldn’t be any rebellion against feeling like you want to be a better you, who can be more comfortable tying your shoes and painting your toes. I agree that you shouldn’t be a slave to the scale. Does that make sense?! I’m probably coming from the same exact place as this campaign in the end LOL

      • Judy, I totally agree with you. Getting healthy most often is tied in with losing weight for many. And since we can see weight, not the inner workings of our body, it’s often our only indication or progress bar- if you will- in that health journey! At the ripe age of 20 I was bordering on high cholesterol and playing chicken with a family history of diabetes. But I know in the end, deep down that wasn’t the reason I decided to lose weight. A lot of people, including a younger me, solely want to lose weight because other people said it’s how I should look– and THAT is not ok!

        • You are so right! That is not ok!! Cheers to HEALTHY in 2014, but most importantly, HAPPY!! I look forward to any future posts you might do on this topic! XO

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